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finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 8:06 pm
by dbzruler88
so i've been with my girlfriend for over 3 1/2 years now and i decided it was time to lock her down for good. i do have the basic plan of how i'm going to do it, but i wouldn't mind some tips or anything from people who have done it before, i'm trying to make it as memorable for her as possible.

she goes to school 180 miles away (graduating from college in may), since valentines day is on a thursday this year, i am going to surprise her by visiting, she doesn't know i took the days off, she doesn't think i'm going up until the weekend after. so on feb 13 i am going to ask her dad for his blessing (i will need some tips on that too if anybody has done that), then the 14th i am driving there. i will already have a reservation at a fancy restaurant we love and i plan on doing it there after we eat dinner and have a couple sangrias. i have already paid off the ring so i have that out of the way.

just looking for some tips, maybe some ideas to polish the plan up a little.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 8:11 pm
by Riku Rose
Take her out for the meal and do nothing. Then when your back home and it's the last thing on her mind just say. "Oh I forgot to give this to you." BANG!

Then again you could propose at the circus that would be memorable.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 8:31 pm
by Axm
Plan sounds fine. Hope it goes off well. Good luck with everything.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 8:32 pm
by ShenmueTree
G'luck!

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 8:41 pm
by KiBa
Congratulations!

But there is one last thing you must do. Abruptly cut off all contact with her soon. When you surprise her, pretend you're desperate; you've lost your job, your left eye, the use of your right arm, and say you're homeless too, body and clothes filthy with soot and dirt (stop shaving now, by the way). Say you need money and a place to stay for a little while. At this very point, kneel and offer her a ring handmade with wire or something to make sure she really loves you for who you are inside. If she says yes, then give her the real ring, and reveal your ruse. If she says no, then she will have revealed her ruse.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:29 pm
by mue 26
^
Personally, I love Kiba's paranoia laced proposal scheme! Get your eye patch ready.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:38 pm
by Axm
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Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2013 10:03 pm
by Spokane
Come on OL, give the man some advice. :P

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2013 4:34 am
by OL
dbzruler88 wrote:just looking for some tips, maybe some ideas to polish the plan up a little.


Plans are shit.
I don't mean yours in particular. I just mean in general.
When it comes to this kind of thing, I found that the right moment is far more important. You can plan the right place, the right speech, the right situation... but in the end, none of it is actually "right" because it's all being "scripted," so to speak.

The right moment, however, is something you don't know is coming until it actually hits. But ultimately, it's worth a helluva lot more than any plan.
My advice would just be to spend time with her, do things you both enjoy, and relax. Just let the moment come when you aren't thinking of anything else in the world but the two of you. You get a big goofy smile on your face because it all simply feels right.
And then you know the moment's hit.

Of course, I could just be spouting nonsense.
I've only done it once after all.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2013 10:23 am
by MiTT3NZ
OL's right. Never felt more out of my element than proposing. I don't care how confident you feel about your plan, it's all gonna go to shit, so prepare yourself for some split-second improv.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2013 3:48 pm
by Axm
Since he's in abit of a time constraint with this whole surprise thing, I don't think he has the luxury to wait for the right moment on a sandy beach or swing set months later. "Scripting" it like he is, is probably the most practical way to get it done. I remember when I proposed I had a whole timeline I was working with before I was to move out of Japan. It completely changed the timing and route we took in our lives because I did it when I did. He might have some timeline here too and we don't know what his plans are. I did basically the same thing he's doing and it turned out super memorable because it's simply always a memorable moment no matter what.
So I say just try get it done, get the words out and focus on the future because ultimately thats what she's going to expect from you for now on.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2013 5:49 pm
by dbzruler88
thanks for the replies.
i am working with a bit of a timeline, she has always dropped hints that she wanted to do it before she graduates college. her sorority does a 'rose ceremony' whenever a member of her sorority takes the next step in their relationship, where they pass a rose around and let it go around a couple times and whoever had the next step come, stops the rose. she said she's always wanted to do that, and i would never want to let her miss that.
not to mention, the whole 'in the moment' thing is very helpful, we took a yacht out on lake michigan at navy pier in chicago and watched the fireworks from out on the lake. it was so amazing, i literally almost asked her that night, completely subconsciously, i had the first word coming out of my mouth, but i stopped myself, i didn't want to do it without a ring. so my timeframe came into play and that is how it got to this point.

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:18 pm
by Sonikku
dbzruler88 wrote:just looking for some tips


Say the words "Yes Dear" and "I'm sorry" to yourself over and over and over again.

Get used to saying them. Then you're good to go. O:)

Re: finally going to propose

PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:41 pm
by Spokane
Reminds me of something I said yesterday. My parents go Chinese food and they didn't want their fortune cookies so I ate them and read off the fortunes. He misheard his fortune and asked me to read it again and I said it different this time since my mom was there too, I said "The key to success in life is listening to your wife" when it didn't say that at all. He said some smart ass comment and she got mad. :lol:

Edit: And damn, I just remembered this August will be their 25th anniversary. :shock: