Sonikku wrote: Commander Shepard.
Good call with the ME reference, I'd forgotten Miranda, she was pretty hot and suitably fantasy-unattainable (for the first half of the game anyway..) in terms of commanding confident attitude.
The Housecarl Lydia from Skyrim was smoking hot design-wise and had quite a sassy attitude with a posh accent too. The fact she was a hard as nails armour-wearing Swordmaiden added to that. Though later on when I was a master blacksmith and crafted her a super-1337 set of Daedric armour, she stayed hidden under the helm at all times. :(
Piper from Fallout 4. She is also nice to look at and is smart and intelligent, and surprisingly good with a gun (seriously, when she demanded to follow me, in my power armour, I thought "What is the point!?" but it seems followers even just in a leather jacket are almost as hard as I am in my armour, which I wear inside my power armour!).
Cait from Fallout 4 is also nice to look at, but not as nice as a person.